This past
week I was introduced to a model called ABCX and it actually is extremely
interesting to how this model really does work and how it actually applies to
your life. Now your probably thinking how can some random assortment of letters
help me understand issues I am having now and prepare me for the future? Well
the double ABCX model is the idea of how previous situations and crisis help to
prepare us for our future crises that we may encounter. The Actual
event is for example a roommate that is extremely confrontational (PREACH ON!),
then Both resources and reactions that are applied to the crisis.
Your resources may include family, friends, or your church and based off of how
you use these resources will depict how you respond to the crisis like if you
discuss the issue with your family and friends you might have your outlooks
change. Then comes Cognition and this is basically your personal
mindset throughout the crisis and afterwards. Examples might be to see this as
a growing experience and to learn much about yourself or you might see this as
a crisis that you simply have to endure (by staying in your room all day and
perpetuating the uncomfortable situation that is at hand). Overall ABC will
determine you eXperience and this is how ABC influenced your overall
feelings during the situation. So when you learn from previous encounter and
then when another crisis come along you go forward with the information and
knowledge that you learned from a previous experience. From this I learned that
we should welcome crises because it will help to prepare us in the future and
we will eventually be capable of handling a variety of issues with ease.
Saturday, March 9, 2013
Thursday, March 7, 2013
Thats What She Said...
Okay so
we all love to make the sex jokes and talk about it with ease yet when we talk
about it on a more serious manner you are probably are like me and get that
super uncomfortable feeling in your chest and want to dig a hole and shove your
head in. Well in a class this week we discussed intimacy and needless to say I
wanted to run! But although it was uncomfortable and I stared at my desk the
whole time it was enlightening to learn more deeply of how intimacy is much
more than just sex and that sex is nothing without intimacy. It is important to
note that most people have it wrong that we believe that those in their 20's
and early 30's that go around having one night stands have the best sex. Well
it is the opposite sex without love, without commitment, and without intimacy
is just a motion its nothing. So in actuality those that are married and have
been for several years typically mid 30's and early 40's are really having the
best sex. The reasoning for this is because it is a practice to which they know
what they like and what their spouse likes and from this it becomes one of the
most powerful bonding experiences we can have in this life. Well what do you
take from this? I strongly encourage you to wait till you are married because
you will avoid pain and the disconnect one can feel from a current partner if
they had previous encounter. Also it will be everything and more than you could
ever imagine as time goes on this physically intimate relationship will create
a stronger marriage!
XOXO Honey Bee's and Sweet Dreams
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